A Georgia hairstylist who had donated her eggs received a text from a teen claiming to be her biological daughter. She told her never to contact her again. The teen had originally said, "I don't mean to be a bother, but I think you may be my biological mother. My mom revealed this info to me and I was wondering if you wanted to do a DNA test and possibly get to know me and build a relationship as your daughter." The woman told her she was "not your mother," and called the message a "major breach of privacy." “Egg donation is a confidential, anonymous business transaction. I signed my parental rights away 19 years ago. I am not your mother.” In a follow-up video, the woman admitted to reacting too quickly, and said she would be open to future contact with the teen, though she still said she was not interested in being her mother. "I do understand you're looking for answers. I'm open to a phone conversation so we can both be heard." Though the woman’s original reaction was to deny a connection to the teen, in reality, she is the girl's biological mother, whether she feels a connection to her or not. If she donated eggs numerous times, she could have numerous biological offspring she still doesn't know about. Even more donor-conceived adults have complained of feeling like they've been mass-produced. It is not a child's fault that he or she was conceived in this manner. IVF places the wants and desires of adults over the needs of the children it creates. We must ban IVF.
The love, the compassion, the charity, the accompaniment... and the law of unintended consequences. Restraint is the better art of valor.